Have you ever wonder how life will be without LOVE. In this life, everything exists do consist of LOVE’ compound inside it. No matter what state of ages you’re in, what era you are from, you’ll come across and experience through your shoes. LOVE makes us stronger. Looking at my perspective, everyone deserves to be LOVED and to LOVE. Below I will try to elaborate some of the few things people commonly overcome in the scope of LOVE; the state of love maturity, the state of moving on, and last but not least lesson learned. The reason I elaborate this scope is that first, people normally don’t fully get the understanding of what current state of love maturity they are in, which has occasionally resulted in heart breaks. Second, after a heart has broken, they commonly in a different soul at the first place which is the state of moving on come in time. Last but not least, as a matter of fact, most importantly is that the lesson learned from what they have been through and not what they have done.
i. Defining what state of love maturity you possess or forsake
In fact, a mature person does not fall in love; he rises in love. The word “fall” is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot handle, and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have the integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he just gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual than before.
Two mature persons in love help each other to become freer. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think about it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would like to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are nor effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.
Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondage. And when love flows with freedom there is a beauty. When love flows with dependence, there is ugliness.
ii. The state of moving on
Things aren’t always what they seem. Our fears can play tricks on us, making us afraid to change course, afraid to move on, but usually hidden behind our fears are second chances waiting to be seized. Second chances at life, at glory, at family, at love, and these opportunities don’t come around every day, so when they do, we have to be brave, take a chance, and grab them while we can.
Sometimes the only way to move forward is to revisit the things in your past that were holding you back. You have to deal with them head on, no matter how scary they may be. Because once we do, you’ll see that you can go further than you ever imagined.
iii. Lesson Learned:
A great relationship doesn’t happen because of the love you had in the beginning, but how well you continue building love until the end.
I’ve learned a lot this year. I learned that things don’t always turn out the way you planned, or the way you think they should. And I’ve learned that there are things that go wrong that don’t always get fixed or get put back together the way they were before, and I’ve learned that some broken things stay broken, and I’ve learned that you can get through bad times and keep looking for better ones, as long as you have people who love you, especially your Family~